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Bullied Kid Fights Back

Mixed emotions when I see the following video of a bullied kid in Australia snapping and taking it to his bully.

I suspect just about everyone feels terrible for the kid being bullied, as well as some sense of justice for what happened to the bully.

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The boy being bullied has been identified as Casey Heynes. Both Casey and Richard (the bully) were suspended from their Sydney middle school after a TV station aired this video.

One Facebook Fan Page for Casey already has 15,000 fans.

You never want to imagine your own child in either position.

Any thoughts on what you would want your own child to do in Casey's shoes? Please share via our comments section below.

 
 

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Violence should always be a

Violence should always be a last resort. In this case, I believe Casey only resorted to violence because he felt cornered. I consider this event to be positive because Richard (the bully) will now think twice about bullying.

I agree. Each of them is

I agree. Each of them is SOMEONE's child. But if my child were in Casey's position, I would not want my child to feel this way on a daily basis. The little skinny twirp got his behind handed to him; he LIMPED away; he WILL think twice about bullying anyone again. Bullying comes from lots of internal/emotional problems the bully may have going on, so chances are he WON'T stop and may find a smaller child to bully. But bullies do deserve this sort of treatment.

I'm lucky

I'm lucky, I've only been bullied twice, and when it happened(public school, around 8ish), we were pretty public spot near the teachers so I knew I could raise my voice when it got out of hand. All I had to do, is advance a few steps nearer upon the bully looking him straight in the eyes to show I wasn't afraid(even though I was). The bully backed off and never bothered me again.

Another time, I was in our neighborhood too far to call for help. And this time it was an 17ish boy and his brother around 10(there might have been another kid, but I can't remember who exactly). I was around 14 then, and watching over my two, much younger brothers. While they were picking on us I remember leaving my bike behind, and trying to push my youngest brother(7, and who was on a tri-cycle) up a very steep hill to get closer to home. I remember praying to G-D.
"Oh, Father, please protect us.." over and over again. I was so scared.
During all this, my youngest brother(7) was talking back to them! My other younger brother(9 who was on a bike) could have left, but he choose to stick around for back-up.
I think it would have gotten really bad if this neighborhood boy(a friend of ours) hadn't come riding up. He was older(and who, after that, I very much looked up to as an older brother), worked out, and was tall for his age. Once he came, the bully's turned tail and backed off!
After that, I kept a very good eye out so as not to be caught in that situation again. We had many problems with that family; who thought their kids were prefect, just everyone else was the problem.
Just a few years ago, the then 17ish bully was arrested for raping a girl(13).

Dear Dr Kim, Is it a good

Dear Dr Kim,

Is it a good idea to name the child in your website? Afterall he is underage. I think that all the media attention is going to haunt him for years as an internet search of his name is going to dredge up all this sad mess. Perhaps it would have been better to leave the boy unidentified. Surely having his name published isn't necessary for the intention of your article.

Thank you

Personally, the big dude

Personally,
the big dude should have leveled him after the first punch and gave him a few more for good measure...Then he will never have to bother with that idiot ever again....

As a bullying victim myself, the only thing that works and fast is fighting back immediately, it gurantees results..telling ur teacher or principal amounts to nothing.

I once sent a bully to the hospital for hitting me, and after I decked him, I got suspended for a week from school...and it was worth every second. The teachers thanked me for taking care of him. He used to go to a psychiatrist for anger management etc, and after the fight, he changed completely to a respectful, quiet human being. His parents even called me for straightening him out if u can believe that. He finally realized that what he was doing was wrong and he was sorry enough so he changed his behavior for the better. Never underestimate the effects of a good knuckle sandwhich!

Heres some information

Heres some information EVERYONE should know. CASEY is the bully and had been bullying Richard for a long period of time. This is a video of RICHARD, THE VICTIM, finally deciding to retaliate to Casey, the big fat kid that had been bullying Richard to the brink of violence.

And the bad mother award goes to...

Disturbing and sad, but I think he did what he had to do. My 6-year old has been bullied at school and when I told her she should tell the teacher and to always stand up for herself and use her big voice; I demonstrated, startled her and she started crying and said the other girl was very big and she was scared of her. The other girl is almost twice her size. I felt so bad and perhaps gave her bad advice at her age. I was a jock in school and so tough, but she is petite and so young. I ended up calling her teacher and it has since been taken care of. Hand over the bad mother award to me on that one.

It worked this time...

Strangely, if an adult should respond to bullying the same way, and did even a minor amount of damage to the culprit, he would be held legally liable for these injuries. Surely you must be aware of the fact that we are not permitted to defend ourselves anymore.

Evil is good, and good evil. It's someplace in the Holy Scriptures. Timothy, maybe? Haven't read the good book in awhile.

I'm sorry, but even though

I'm sorry, but even though the boy has been bullied, this video show' exactly why the attack went wrong and they BOTH received expulsion! Did you happen to notice how skinny the bully kid is? Or how hard that kid was slammed on the concrete? And how about his leg hitting on that concrete/brick ledge so hard he was unable to walk on it? Okay, these are YOUNG boys who re-act, not think! Who even knows if the bully boy would have been so mean had he not been egged on, as we could hear other boys in the video doing. Has this ONE skinny little boy been his bully all along, or have there been many bullies? This is not a movie, folks! How dare anyone support this type of fighting back? The victim didn't anticipate the body slam anymore than he did the brick ledge, so what if e had killed the bully kid? What then? This one doesn't appear to have worked out properly. I despise bullies as much as the next person, but these kids are so young they had no idea what could happen if they fought there. I do not support this oneat all, it worked out very badly and shame on the adults who applaud this one.

and that's the way it is.

so what's your point? the bullied kid has no reason at all to defend himself? at one point, have you ever experienced been bullied and didnt fight back? i guess not thats why you dont understand.why, for us that with the bullied kid, if he didnt fought back, he will probably take that certain time day and moment be kept for the rest of his life, he may not have the face again and stayed bullied if he still insisted to his self to be still gentle giant as they call. it might get that the humiliation he had would last for his self for the rest of his life. but no, he stand to his ground and believed that time is enough and that it isn't right already. that's why he defended himself and fought back on the way he could only think of. would the skinny kid broke his leg, slammed his face at the floor and whatever possible extreme may happen to that bully kid? so what? (but yeah thank God he was fine after that) he get's what he wanted to get. yeah, there is my concern like you for the silly kid that he was hurt, BUT! the bullied kid was hurt too. and for every one's eye, it's just totally fair. they are both hurt. you earn what you strive to do, you get what you want, karma is always right ahead, and prolly that's why the word "fair" came out in the world. you know why i am like this? i was a bullied kid too before. and i had the similar experience like that one. but what can i do, i was hurt, and for some reason i thought that i will not tolerate it at all once and for all. and for even once, just for only once in my childhood life to defend my self like what the bullied boy did. you know what i mean? and so i fought back. not all the time people has amor for what they think is good for their selves. that's why people are so much full and arrogant of their selves, because people, even tho they knew that there is something wrong, they still at their back to support. and that's wrong. -"maraming mayayabang na bata at kaya umaabuso kasi kinakampihan at hinahayaan nalang kaya hindi natututo" get a translator to understand. it's a basic logic, not all days are ours, there will come a time that we all need to learn something from this life. and so, i believe its all fair. well yeah, i dont even support both of the wrong things that was done. totally. it worked out much more badly and shame to those "adults" who don't get the reason at all. (kids can think, they have brains and mind, they have a will too, they know how to do it at all, the only reason they dont know what they are doing is because no one teaches them and let them know the right thing or the bad thing. it's to them whether to do it or not. again, it's the family's most especially the adults-parents' responsible at all on how their children must learn.) be fair. God love's his children. God loves us all.

He'll think twice

Melinda,

My kids have been bullied, they tell the teacher and nothing happens, they come home and tell me and I report it- nothing happens. When both of my kids - with my blessing - finally fought back, all bullying stopped.

I've taught my kids to never start a fight but if they are bullied to fight back. Kids who bully do so because they get away with it but when you get that kid who defends themself...trust me, the bully thinks twice.

I would much rather have my child fight back and get suspended then to have them succumb to depression and suicide. It's not voilence, it's protecting yourself, emotionally, physically and from future bullys.

I agree

My heart sunk when I saw how hard the bully hit the ground and his leg hit the brick, but I agree, the emotional scars from not standing up for yourself are not worth the risk. People must stand up for themselves, and those lessons start in childhood.

You are coming off like an

You are coming off like an idiot. What if casey's head snapped back into the wall and killed him. I guess you would have just stood there and be beaten senseless. I feel sorry iof you have any kids. So what if the other kid was smaller. he got what he deserved

You don't have kids do you?

You don't have kids do you? That kid had lots of control, considering. He walked away immediately. Unlike the bully who kept taunting him.

So, by your rationale,

So, by your rationale, because the other kid (the one who walked right up and punched the other kid in the face, with all his friends looking on and laughing) was SKINNY and SMALLER, he didn't deserve to be stopped?
Or because, to quote you, he probably wasn't the ONLY one bullying the kid, he didn't deserve it?!
Please, please tell me that you are NOT the parent of a child or owner of any animals!!

I believe in loving our neighbour and I also believe that our actions have consequences: Richard found that out that day too! I hope a consequence of Casey's actions will be that all the little cowards will seriously think twice about picking on an easy target in future.

You've got to be kidding me.

You've got to be kidding me. For Casey to have walked away would have sentenced him to even more weeks/months of bullying. He reacted, apparently in a rage fueled by fear, but he certainly made his point. I've always supported the right to defend one's self. Certainly the skinny kid was injured, but that's a consequence that's best learned now and not later when perhaps weapons are involved. I'd much rather the kid react this way and even injure his antagonist then to have it end tragically like so other sad cases where the victim ends up taking his or her life because they saw no end to the bullying.

Bullies should never be left to bully

I agree it is never right for any one to strike another. However, a bully unfortunately will never stop until he is given reason to. When he hit this other boy he at that moment took a chance that the boy would retaliate or not. But when and if the boy did retaliate the bully would have to face the consequences for his actions what ever it maybe. The bully knew the boys size and he also knew his character. He obviously knew that the boy would not strike back. That is why he keep hitting him. Most of the time when a person like Casey hits it is to stop the bully from doing it again knowing that it will be a one time event and that it is pent up frustration that is in that one strike. My son had to deal with a bully in third grade. This little guy (same size as my son) would wait until he was turning the corner where the teacher could not see and just slug my son. I had always told my children that they do not ever have a right to hit another. I spoke to the teacher and she said the bully would never do such a thing and left it at that. Well it continued and then I took it to the principal. She said until they see it they cannot do anything about it. So it continued and at that point I gave my son permission one hit. And I told him to make it count because they would not be another chance and he would probably get in trouble with the principal. The bully never bothered him again. The teacher and the principal had the wisdom to know that the situation was delt with the best way possible and did not punish my son and it ended. There are no rights in this situation but put yourself in these kids shoes. Some commit suicide over being bullied so much, some have even gone in with guns and shopt up many students I would rather deal with reality that this one had to face his own consequences as hard as they were!!!!!!!!!

You seem to be ignoring the

You seem to be ignoring the fact that the skinny kid was hitting the bigger kid. When somebody's hitting you and you're against a wall, you don't just sit there and take the punches, you fight back! I applaud this kid showing a little backbone. Obviously they chose a bad spot to fight, but you have to remember that the body slam was a defensive act. In this instance, it was one bully, not several. The bully just had bad judgement; you shouldn't pick on the kid that's twice your size.

What If

What if the fat kid had not defended himself? By all accounts he took to long to stop the beating. What if the bully had punched the victim on his temple killing him? What if the bully had punched the victim in the nose causing a blood clot killing him. The bully got what be deserved. I had my son watch this video as proof that if you don't stand up to a bully he'll keep beating you until he gets tired. IT IS YOUR GOD GIVEN RIGHT TO DEFEND YOURSELF FROM DANGER AT ALL TIMES. People are acting like bulling is something new. Well it isn't and it must be met the same way it has in the past. You caint rationalize with a bully. The only thing he understands is who he can pick on and who he caint. Who fights back and who won't. If a guy bullies you in the first grade and you won't defend yourself he'll continue all the way thru to the twelveth grade. There were times in school when I had to stand up to bullies. Some fights I won,some I loss. But wether I won or loss, the bulling stopped because it was known that I wasn't easy pickings

Do you have children of your

Do you have children of your own?

The bullied Kid fights Back..

The young man had already taken several punches to the face and stomach. He would have left it alone had the bully stopped. He did not in fact he continued for as long as he could and would have continued,. Leaving the bigger kid a badly brusied ego &body. His self esteem would have be sadly affected for years maybe his whole life. Would you or want your kids to endure such abuse? So much that you refuse to go back to school, but instead start to miss classes maybe fall into the wrong crowd? drugs crime gangs etc? You also must understand that it was self defense AND AS BADLY AS I know that kid was hurt he should have never hit the other kid., its a great example of what can happen if you pick on the wrong person. You don't go around hitting people in the face. Period. He over stepped the other childs personal space.
The big kid held off then enraged struck back. He would not be held accountable in a court of law for self defense. sorry Last fact here some people a small percentage of people will only learn from violence as that is all they know.

fairness

so what's your point? (to all that is for the other one) the bullied kid has no reason at all to defend himself? at one point, have you ever experienced been bullied and didnt fight back? i guess not thats why you dont understand.why, for us that with the bullied kid, if he didnt fought back, he will probably take that certain time day and moment be kept for the rest of his life, he may not have the face again and stayed bullied if he still insisted to his self to be still gentle giant as they call. it might get that the humiliation he had would last for his self for the rest of his life. but no, he stand to his ground and believed that time is enough and that it isn't right already. that's why he defended himself and fought back on the way he could only think of. would the skinny kid broke his leg, slammed his face at the floor and whatever possible extreme may happen to that bully kid? so what? (but yeah thank God he was fine after that) he get's what he wanted to get. yeah, there is my concern like you for the silly kid that he was hurt, BUT! the bullied kid was hurt too. and for every one's eye, it's just totally fair. they are both hurt. you earn what you strive to do, you get what you want, karma is always right ahead, and prolly that's why the word "fair" came out in the world. you know why i am like this? i was a bullied kid too before. and i had the similar experience like that one. but what can i do, i was hurt, and for some reason i thought that i will not tolerate it at all once and for all. and for even once, just for only once in my childhood life to defend my self like what the bullied boy did. you know what i mean? and so i fought back. not all the time people has amor for what they think is good for their selves. that's why people are so much full and arrogant of their selves, because people, even tho they knew that there is something wrong, they still at their back to support. and that's wrong. -"maraming mayayabang na bata at kaya umaabuso kasi kinakampihan at hinahayaan nalang kaya hindi natututo" get a translator to understand. it's a basic logic, not all days are ours, there will come a time that we all need to learn something from this life. and so, i believe its all fair. well yeah, i dont even support both of the wrong things that was done. totally. it worked out much more badly and shame to those "adults" who don't get the reason at all. (kids can think, they have brains and mind, they have a will too, they know how to do it at all, the only reason they dont know what they are doing is because no one teaches them and let them know the right thing or the bad thing. it's to them whether to do it or not. again, it's the family's most especially the adults-parents' responsible at all on how their children must learn.) be fair. God love's his children. God loves us all.

Sometimes you have to fight back

We don't specifically know the back story to this whole bully situation. Maybe the poor boy being bullied was at his breaking point. I would imagine this was not the first time this bullying occurred or little did they know that the video would be all over the web.

I was in a situation when I was younger and my mom taught us never to hit anyone. My sister and I would come home and tell her that this one boy had hit us... and this was happening often. My mom would tell the boys mom and nothing would happen etc... finally after it was happening for so long my Mom was tired of this boy hitting us and said if he hits you, you hit him back (basically protect yourself). It finally happened once and I hit him back and the mother came to my mother and complained to us about the situation and how awful we were for hitting her poor boy.

So just another example that when someone tests your buttons for so long you might need to just fight back a little bit for them not to bully you again. I think as a parent it's a really difficult thing to hear that your child is being bullied. You want them to stick up for themselves with out resorting to violence.

I don't agree with fighting but I think in certain instances you need to stand up for yourself.

I think Dr. Ben's use of

I think Dr. Ben's use of words - "the bullied kid snapping" - is the right one, from what I know of the situation and what we see on the video. He had been hurt and humilated over years and extendedly this one day, on camera, and as he's a child, he very explicably lost control.

The commenter who pointed out this isn't something to congratulate, and that the bully could have been seriously hurt or even killed, is right in a sense. But the kid who fought back can't be blamed either; one of the reason reasonable legal systems don't hold kids to the same account they hold adults is because we understand (or we should understand) that kids don't have the same control over their actions.

And frankly in the same situation most adults, who should have learnt better control, would do the same. If I think about it honestly I probably would, and I like to think I'm not a violent person.

So if blame is really due, it's due toward the school for not preventing this situation, or intervening in this situation, before the bullied boy reached his breaking point and put the other boy's life at risk - not to mention before the bullied boy was suggested to something so psychologically hard to bear.

In the same way I, as a taxpayer and as a law abiding citizen supporting the legal police force, have a reasonable expectation of walking around and carrying out my daily business without getting my face punched in, that bullied child should have been able to expect his school to prevent him from getting hurt. And the bullying child should have been successfully 'defused' so that his life was never in danger - so that a kid twice his size wouldn't pick him up and body slam him.

That school is notorious here in Australia, BTW, for this sort of thing. And generally the bullying situation here is pretty rough. There are programs to help remedy the situation but my guess is it'll take a few more dead children (there have been a few these last few years) before school boards get serious about it.

How to End Bullying

Firstly we need to recognise the mindset of a bully. It is one thats lacks powers of reason, any understanding of what is right and wrong or what is socially unacceptable. More dangerous is that if it not nipped in the bud the bully will go on to become a antisocial adult potentially a danger to anyone else.
I recall an incident at my school in England in 1956 when the big brother of a boy being bullied challenged the bully to a fight in the park right outside the school. The bully accepted the challenge. The fight took place outside the very school gates and in front of a crowd comprising most all of the children from every year in the school.
Without exception the mob cried out in support of the big brother, for the bully was notorious and hated by all.
With one massive punch to the jaw, the brother flattened the bully and he lay their whimpering like a whipped dog. Everyone cheered out loud, including me!
The Bully NEVER ever raised his hand to another child!

The morale of this story? If you give a bully back some of their own medicine....that is one certain cure for their behaviour.
We are all sick and tired of Bullies and Bullying, yet we allow it to go on by failing to intervene and publicly vilify perpetrators. Do that and physically punish them so that they learn what PAIN is and there you have the problem nipped in the bud and resolved.
What the hell is everyone waiting for? Just do it!

Incredible to me is that: 1.

Incredible to me is that:

1. The fight was filmed by an onlooker and seems to have been planned or premeditated.

2. The apparent instigator (bully) seems to be smiling to the photographer at the end.

I don't make any conclusions related to these two observations, I'm just stunned by them.

A Victim Speaks Out.

I was a victim of bullying, for most of my school life I was bullied. I was small for my age, quiet, shy and also partially deaf.
My name at school was FREAK, do you know, can you imagine what it is like to be called a freak, for years?
It wasn't just one person it was gangs, and shock, horror, it was girls..... girls really are the worst when it comes to bullying...

Once, when I was around 11 years old, I was walking home from school and two of the girls followed me home, name calling, pushing and shoving, this by the side of a main road with heavy traffic...
They kept on and on, and I snapped too, not as badly as the boy in the video but I slapped one girl across the face, unfortunately, there were two of the female teachers walking behind us. They hadn't seen any bullying on the girls part but they saw me slap one. I was the one in trouble not them... I was given detention and lines simply for fighting back... according to the teachers who were religious, I should turn the other cheek.
I never retaliated again, it wasn't worth it.

I saw this video yesterday on another site and I said "Good for him, Stand up to them".
I am 57 years old and I still feel the emotional pain from being bullied as a child and as a teenager, it does affect our whole lives.

Hopefully this bully will learn from his experience, but I doubt it.

Definitely not. Bullying is

Definitely not. Bullying is one of the things I am afraid to happen to my children. That's why I provided them a panic button alert on their cell phones. In case they will be bullied, threatened or encounter an emergency they will just press the panic button and it will simultaneously alert their trusted friend and family member. Now, my kids have an easy access to their loved ones in case they need help. In case they will be in a serious trouble, the incident will be routed to the nearest 911. If you want to check out, this is how I protect my kids http://Safekidzone.com/

 

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