Most Important Decisions

"...people are still blind to the way unconscious affections and aversions shape daily life. Modern society has created a giant apparatus for the cultivation of hard skills, while failing to develop the moral and emotional faculties down below.

Children are coached on how to jump through a thousand scholastic hoops. Yet by far the most important decisions they will make are about whom to marry and whom to befriend, what to love and what to despise, and how to control impulses. On these matters, they are almost entirely on their own.

We are good at teaching technical skills, but when it comes to the most important things, like character, we have almost nothing to say."

- The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources of Love, Character, and Achievement