If you want to understand someone's level of emotional maturity, observe how they respond when you express how they've hurt you. A mature individual who deeply cares about you will listen without deflecting, validate your feelings, and reflect on their actions. They will recognize that being accountable doesn't diminish their worth - rather, it deepens trust and connection with you. On the other hand, someone who is emotionally immature will dismiss, blame, or attack because self protection is more important than helping you heal. Read more
Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?
"First, we should concentrate each day on the happiness portfolio: faith, family, community, and earned success through work. Teach it to those around you, and fight against the barriers to these things. Second, resist the worldly formula of misery, which is to use people and love things. Instead, remember your core values and live by the true formula: Love people and use things. Third, celebrate the free enterprise system, which creates abundance for the most people—especially the poor. Read more
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