Being fulfilled is far more important than being successful because success is measured by others who carry values that may be different from ours, while fulfillment is something we feel deep within. Read more
The practice of self-responsibility begins with the recognition that I am ultimately responsible for my own existence; that no one else is here to serve me, take care of me, or fill my needs; I am the owner of no one's life but my own. This means that I am willing to generate the causes of the effects I want. It also means that if I need the cooperation of others in the pursuit of my goals, I must provide them with reasons meaningful in terms of their own interests and needs; my wants per se are not a claim on anyone.
When you're not sure which of two choices to make, flip a coin. Heads = choice 1, tails = choice 2. While the coin is in the air, you'll likely realize which of the two choices you're hoping for. Read more
It's been said that we should surround ourselves with people who would stand up for us in rooms that we aren't in. Not to be forgotten is to live in a way that makes this our reality. We aren't entitled to such loyalty - rather, we must earn it over many years. Read more
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