When a person is steely in his contentions, certain that his viewpoint is the best path for all, void of moments of doubt and uncertainty, it may be wise to tread carefully.
When I see dogmatic behaviour, I see unfulfilled need.
To be unyielding in one's beliefs reflects some degree of indifference for the suffering of our fellow humans.
Where there is doubt, I often find decency. Where there is lack of doubt, I am careful not to get too close. Read more
I believe I've passed the age of consciousness and righteous rage. I've found that just surviving is a noble fight. I once believed in causes too; I had my pointless points of view. And life went on no matter who was wrong or right.
If you regularly struggle to be understood or even heard, if your conversations leave you feeling like a mere sounding board, if you sense there is no genuine interest from the other side in what's going on with you, ask yourself if this is a friend you wish upon your own children? If not, what are you doing? Read more
That moment when you can recognize selfish intentions in a fellow human being, kindly protect yourself from it, but not feel animosity or disdain for that individual feels like a level of enlightenment. Read more
We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path.
Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity.
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