Grieving the Loss of a Child

I don't think any of us can understand how devastating it is to lose a child unless we have gone through this. I can't even go there in my own heart - such a loss is unimaginable.

In suffering the death of elders in my family over the years, I have experienced grief in many forms. Shock, confusion, disbelief, guilt, regret - these are the main emotions that I recall feeling in the months after losing a loved one.

Christina, a friend who lost her grown son late last year reached out to me the other day with the following note:

I was wondering if you'd consider writing something about grieving?

I find I go up and down. I have days in a row where I feel happy and balanced, and then "out of nowhere" the loss of my son hits me again, and again, and again. I don't believe time heals anything, but rather that we learn to live with the loss, learn to go on. It's tough though.

If you have suffered the death of a child and can share how you grieved or any other thoughts of comfort for Christina, I would really appreciate you using the comments section below to send her a note.

I have also posted this at our Facebook page if you prefer to share there.

Thank you so much.

Ben Kim