If you enter into a conversation or argument with someone you love with the intention of "winning," then you are really fighting a battle. You are trying to take your opponent down or put them in their place. The only thing you are going to win is a broken relationship. Winning over your partner means your whole relationship is losing. The only time anyone wins an argument is if both parties leave it feeling heard, respected, and loved.
Hold others to the same standard that you hold yourself. Unless they're children or mentally disabled, expect other people to behave, or at least try to behave, as ethically as you do, or at least try to. If you forgive them for doing something that you would not forgive yourself for doing, you are claiming that you are their superior. If they do something to you that any reasonable person would know is wrong, but they refuse to apologize to you, they are telling you that they consider themselves your superior, and they don't respect you. Read more
People don't move into action because of statistics. They move because of their hearts. We're hardwired with empathy neurons, billions of them, and human beings are evolutionarily programmed to help one another.
I was in darkness, but I took three steps and found myself in paradise. The first step was a good thought, the second, a good word; and the third, a good deed.
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