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Breastfeeding Tips For First-Time Moms

This article was originally published in May, 2006

It's no secret that breastfeeding provides both a mother and her baby with numerous physical and emotional health benefits.

Unfortunately, some new moms who have every intention of nursing their babies end up switching to formula within the first few weeks of their babies' lives.

Here are some of the key findings on this topic from a study published in the December 2005 issue of Pediatrics:

  • Based on data collected in 2000 and 2001, 32 percent of women chose not to breast feed at all

  • 4 percent started breastfeeding, but stopped within the first week

  • 13 percent stopped breastfeeding within the first month

  • 51 percent continued breastfeeding for greater than 4 weeks

  • Younger women with lower than average socioeconomic status were most likely to stop breastfeeding within the first month

Reasons for stopping with breastfeeding included:

  • Sore nipples
  • Inadequate milk supply
  • Infant having difficulties
  • The perception that the infant was not getting enough milk

Based on my own personal experience with breastfeeding as well as the experiences of other moms who I have talked with over the past year, it's clear that all first time moms can benefit from learning about what to expect with breastfeeding, particularly in the first month. Knowing what to expect can provide first time moms with confidence and assurance that can lead to a healthy breastfeeding experience.

Here are some pointers about breastfeeding that I wish I had known about before my baby arrived:

  1. Breastfeeding can be hard and stressful. Most books and breastfeeding support groups tend to emphasize how wonderful breastfeeding is and how good it is for the development of a healthy bond between mom and baby. A lack of awareness of how hard and stressful breastfeeding might be at times can leave many women feeling like they are the only ones dealing with a stressful breastfeeding situation. The reality is that many mothers find it difficult.

  2. Part of the stress of breastfeeding can come from having painful nipples. La Leche League and lactation consultants tend to say that breastfeeding should not be painful. I would agree, but would add that this may not be true during the first week or so of breastfeeding. While breastfeeding, the nipples get stretched so that they reach the back of the baby's palate - close to the throat. In the first weeks of life, the baby is constantly nursing to bring up mom's breast milk supply. Constant nursing plus the stretching that the nipples are subjected to can leave mom's nipples extremely sore. The good news is that after about a week or two, the nipples get used to the rigors of nursing and don't tend to get sore anymore.

  3. If a woman continues to experience sore nipples after a week or two of breastfeeding, the cause might be an improper latch. Latch refers to the position of the baby's mouth, lips, and tongue on the breast. A La Leche League leader, lactation consultant, or mid wife can provide guidance on how to promote a good latch while breastfeeding.

  4. Another common source of stress can be the feeling that mom doesn't have enough or any milk in her breasts. When a woman's milk first comes in, it can take a while for her body to adjust to how much milk her baby needs. Until her milk supply regulates in this manner, her breasts will feel really full at times and really empty at other times.

    The reality is that breasts are never fully empty because the body is constantly producing milk as long as the baby is nursing. In my case, our baby grew so fast that I felt that my breasts were often empty, which led me to feel that my milk supply was inadequate. In actuality, my body was learning what our baby needed. All I had to do was let our baby nurse as much as he wanted - even if it seemed that no milk was coming out - because the more a baby nurses, the more milk will be produced. Thankfully, I had learned this at La Leche League meetings during my pregnancy so I was able to persevere with breastfeeding, despite my feelings of having an inadequate milk supply.

  5. How the breasts feel is not a reliable indicator of whether a woman has enough milk or not. Neither is the amount of milk that a woman can pump out because man-made pumps are not as efficient as babies at drawing out milk. For example, the pump that I have doesn't work very well unless it's rinsed in water first to give the suction mechanism more stick. Even then, it doesn't get much milk out. I currently use my breast pump only to relieve engorgement that occurs whenever our baby's nursing patterns change.

  6. Another potential source of stress for me was an overactive letdown. Letdown is when the baby's suckling triggers a reflex that results in milk flow. The stress that first time moms can experience with an overactive letdown is another potential feature of the breastfeeding experience that women don't tend to tell each other about. It's important to note that not all women experience an overactive letdown.

    With our baby, my letdown was so strong that milk would literally shoot out. He wasn't able to handle the strong surge in milk, leading to coughing and sputtering that was heart-breaking to see. Now that I look back, I didn't even realize at first that I had an overactive letdown. I just thought that I was doing something wrong or that something was wrong with our baby. If I had the opportunity to do things over again, I would have set our baby aside once my letdown was triggered, let the milk run out, and then let our baby back on the breast once the surge had diminished and he was able to nurse comfortably. Ultimately, our baby was able to overcome this problem when he grew big enough to handle my letdown, which occurred at approximately 3.5 to 4 months of age.

  7. Some first time moms can feel stress over wanting to get the latch just right. I wanted our baby's mouth to look exactly the way that the baby's mouth in a La Leche guide looked. In truth, our baby's mouth couldn't always look "perfect" because he was trying to handle my letdown. Now that he is bigger and manages the letdown just fine, his latch looks like the classic latch when he is nursing. But even though we've got a good latch going, his mouth doesn't always look "perfect" - both lips are supposed to be flanged out, but his top lip is sometimes curled in. A good approach seems to be to let the baby latch and see how it feels. If it hurts or is uncomfortable, then change it. Sometimes babies know how to latch correctly right away, but sometimes they don't. Sometimes it is a learned skill.

  8. Some women can find it stressful when family members suggest or flat-out tell them that they don't have enough milk. Today's generation of child-bearing women should remember that their parents' and grandparents' generations were greatly influenced by formula companies and many of them don't have the experience of breastfeeding for a long time. Some of them didn't breast feed at all. The reality is that babies will nurse a lot because they are growing all the time.

    The only reliable way to tell whether a baby is getting enough milk or not is to observe his or her output (number and amount of pees and poos) and the baby's growth. Sometimes, even when a baby is obviously getting enough milk, relatives may suggest that mom doesn't have enough milk. In my case, our baby was 20 pounds at 3 months and 23 pounds at 4 months and I still heard from my relatives, "Maybe you don't have enough milk" from time to time. Ultimately, it is very rare for a mother to have inadequate milk supply if she is allowing her baby to nurse whenever the baby wants. And of course, high quality milk production requires mom to eat when hungry and to eat healthy foods.


  • My supportive husband.

  • A good support network - La Leche League helped a lot because I was able to call the leader anytime.

  • Supportive midwives who invited me to call anytime, day or night, during the first few weeks of our baby's life.

  • Attending La Leche League meetings while pregnant - they taught me a lot about breast milk management before I started breastfeeding and this helped to keep me from getting discouraged when I started breastfeeding.

  • Having the mindset that formula is not an option - if there was an option that was as good as breastfeeding, but didn't require my breasts, I would have taken it! But since there wasn't, I had to keep going with the breastfeeding.

  • Being told that I was doing a really good job (even though I felt like I wasn't). Empathy helps a lot - for example, having someone acknowledge that I wasn't having a good time.

As you can see, I believe that a first-time mom who really wants to breastfeed her child can never have too much support. If you are a first time or expectant mom who is in need of breastfeeding information and support, I encourage you to visit La Leche League's web site.


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Excellent information, but I would like to add that when you're starting out breastfeeding it is important to change positions at teach feeding, i.e., breastfeed sitting up with baby across lap, next feeding lie down on your side, next feeding sit up and place a pillow next to you, lay baby parallel and feed. Keep switching it up and it will keep you from getting sore as the baby puts pressure on different parts of the nipple.

98% of all moms out there are physically and mentally able to breastfeed, and start their newborn’s life by doing it. There is no good reason to explain why so many stop, except the fact that they experience lack of support and societal pressure. It’s time to enpower women to make breastfeeding a first step in their baby’s life. Breastfeeding moms rule!
Read my post on the 10 things people don’t tell you about breastfeeding:

Thank you for writing and sharing your experiences. It is difficult to breastfeed and everyone needs to hear they are doing a wondeful job.

I loved this article! I am a mom of 6 and was lucky enough to breastfeed all of them a little past their first birthdays. I know it can be tough, especially if you don't have the support of family and friends. Please consider the numerous benefits to you and your baby. This article offers so much great info and lactation consultants and other moms have even more! My advice is keep trying, keep asking for help if you need it, get a nursing bra that REALLY fits you and is comfortable and a Modest Middles Nursing Undershirt (it makes any shirt you wear breastfeeding-friendly by covering your tummy, back and sides when you lift your shirt without getting in the way of your nursing bra-makes nursing in public super easy I wish you new moms the best!

another thing with breastfeeding, do not feed 15 minutes one side and then 15 minutes another side......keep feedinh on breast until baby is finished, and on the next feed got to the other breast, this is to ensure baby gets the hind milk. The formilk quenches babies thirst and the hindmilk has a higher fat content which is good for baby. If you are getting green poopy diapers instead of yellow mustard colour, baby is not getting enough hind milk.