Everyone has a holy place, a refuge, where their heart is purer, their mind clearer, where they feel closer to God or love or truth or whatever it is they happen to worship.
If you want to understand someone's level of emotional maturity, observe how they respond when you express how they've hurt you. A mature individual who deeply cares about you will listen without deflecting, validate your feelings, and reflect on their actions. They will recognize that being accountable doesn't diminish their worth - rather, it deepens trust and connection with you. On the other hand, someone who is emotionally immature will dismiss, blame, or attack because self protection is more important than helping you heal. Pay attention to these responses - they will guide you toward clarity.