Why is targeted, mistake-focused practice so effective? Because the best way to build a good circuit is to fire it, attend to mistakes, then fire it again, over and over. Struggle is not an option: it's a biological requirement. Read more
Children are coached on how to jump through a thousand scholastic hoops. Yet by far the most important decisions they will make are about whom to marry and whom to befriend, what to love and what to despise, and how to control impulses.
"Saying sorry doesn't mean that you're wrong and the other person is right. It just means that you value the relationship more than your ego." Read more
Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
If you want to understand someone's level of emotional maturity, observe how they respond when you express how they've hurt you. A mature individual who deeply cares about you will listen without deflecting, validate your feelings, and reflect on their actions. They will recognize that being accountable doesn't diminish their worth - rather, it deepens trust and connection with you. On the other hand, someone who is emotionally immature will dismiss, blame, or attack because self protection is more important than helping you heal. Pay attention to these responses - they will guide you toward clarity.