Remember this. Hold on to this. This is the only perfection there is, the perfection of helping others. This is the only thing we can do that has any lasting meaning. This is why we're here. To make each other feel safe.
Our time here is too precious to spend on people who leave us feeling used or manipulated. No thank you, good luck, and good-bye are all we need say. Send them light and send them off.
And for ways in which such people have mistreated us, let's forgive them even if they aren't sorry. Let them say we did them wrong in moving forward if this is how they feel. Let's not allow additional thoughts about them steal from our well-being.
Let's protect and cherish our well-being. Read more
The prerequisite for spending time with any person is that they nourish and inspire you, that they feed your flames. Look at your last 5 text messages - are those people feeding your flames or dousing your fire? The people that you spend time with are going to make or break your dreams. Not everyone deserves to be around you. You have to defend your light with your life. Who are the people in your life who are fanning your flames?
Growing children have better access to being whole and real than we do. May we embrace them for who they are and recognize them as our greatest spiritual teachers. Read more
Can you sense when people are networking with you only because they think you can help them? Others can, too. Rather than spend energy networking, we are better off putting our efforts into improving. The best opportunities are earned through steady effort. Read more
There is neither happiness nor misery in the world; there is only the comparison of one state with another, nothing more. He who has felt the deepest grief is best able to experience supreme happiness.
After 21 years, we made the difficult decision to bring our catalogue to a close. To stay connected with Dr. Kim's writings, please feel free to subscribe for free here: Dr. Ben Kim on Substack. Sending best wishes and thanks to all.